Having your cake and eating it!

Mildred Higgins
Mildred Higgins

“We will open the book, its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is the New Year.” Unknown

Is there a woman alive who doesn’t suffer from stress? If there is, seek her out and ask her to share her wisdom.  When you find her, I’d be willing to bet she’ll offer the following suggestions:  Cultivate gratitude.  Carve out an hour a day for solitude.  Begin and end the day with a prayer, meditation, and reflection. Keep it simple, keep your house picked up.  Do not over schedule. Strive for realistic deadlines.  Never make a promise you cannot keep.

Allow an extra half hour for everything you do, create quite surroundings at home and at work.  Go to bed at nine o’clock at least twice a week.  Breathe…deeply and often, move, walk, dance, run find a sport you enjoy.  Eat only when you are hungry.  If it’s not delicious, don’t eat it.   Set aside one day a week for rest and renewal.  Laugh more often.

Always opt for comfort, if you do not love it live without it.  Let mother Nature nurture.

Don’t answer the telephone during dinner.  Stop trying to please everybody.  Stay away from negative people.  Nurture friendships.  Approach problems as challenges.  Honor your aspirations.  Set achievable goals.  Savor beauty.  Create boundaries.  For every “yes,” let there be a “no.”  Don’t worry be happy.  Remember happiness is a living emotion. Care for your soul.  Cherish your dreams, express love everyday.  Search for your authentic self until you find her.

“When we truly care for ourselves it becomes possible to care for more profoundly about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be toward others.” Edna LeShan

Authentic success and worldly success are not mutually exclusive.  Granted, it is easier to achieve them one at a time but pursuing both is not impossible once you realize the importance distinctions between the two.   We need to choose between them.  We must only discern which of the two helps us care for our souls of those we love, and pursue the first one.

The Bible tells us we cannot serve two masters, God and money. But what about having your cake and eating it too? On this the scripture is silent.   Actually, it’s quite possible to eat and have provided you bake two cakes at the same time.  Any cook knows that doubling the amount of your batter is no big deal.  But going into the kitchen to make a second cake after you’ve baked and iced your first and washed the dishes requires a lot of psychic and physical energy.  That’s why you need to double your dreams when you conceive them. Author unknown

Millie’s’ quote for today.  “Let us, then be up and doing with a heart for any fate, still achieving, still pursuing learn to labor and to wait.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow